Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Teen Pregnancy: Not Caused By Makeup

This charming (by which I mean "really gross") image came across my facebook feed yesterday:


Ew. While I know that these particular memes are often intentionally offensive for the purposes of being oh-so-edgy, I also know that the attitude that teen pregnancy happens because omg, the slutty, slutty girls is a pervasive attitude. And I know that it's incorrect. And I know that since the slutty slutty girls are not the reason teen pregnancy happens, slut shaming is not part of the solution.

I digress. This meme is gross, and I'll explain why. But first, since an increasing number of people are missing out on comprehensive sex education, it seems a little biology lesson is in order:

Teenage girls to do not become pregnant by wearing make up or "provocative clothing" or by dating. Teenage girls become pregnant by having unprotected sex. With boys. 

I know. I was shocked too. That boys are equally responsible for teenage pregnancy. Except, no, I wasn't shocked, because, SCIENCE.

If I need to spell it out, that's why the photo is gross. It places the onus for teen pregnancy entirely on girls and their parents, and as we all know, females do not become pregnant without males participating in some fashion.

So if you don't want your daughter to wear make up at 10 or date at 12 or wear certain clothing at 14, cool. I, myself, am likely to discourage my daughter (daughters?) from wearing make up or "sexy" clothing as adolescents. Not to prevent pregnancy, but because I do everything in my power to counteract the constant messages that in order for a woman to have worth, she must fit into a little box that society has labeled "sexy". (And hey, perhaps if more of us did more to counteract the messages that women are expected to be sexy, young girls wouldn't be so interested in such things in the first place, hmmmm?) But don't kid yourself into thinking that prohibiting those things will keep her from becoming pregnant. And don't think that if you have sons, you're off the hook in this whole teen pregnancy thing.

The way we prevent teen pregnancy is not by telling girls that they have to be "good girls" and that that "good girls" don't dress "like that". The way we prevent teen pregnancy is by teaching our children, boys and girls, to respect their own bodies and the bodies of others. By teaching our children, boys and girls, about how to have sex safely and responsibly. By providing our children, boys and girls, a safe and non-judgmental environment in which to discuss such matters.

When I started having sex, in my late teens, I didn't wear much make up, and coming of age in the grunge era, I certainly didn't wear provocative clothing. I also didn't become pregnant. Why? Because I'd had comprehensive sex education in school. I knew how babby is formed. I knew the myriad of birth control options available. And I knew that I could talk to my mom about it. When I did, we had a discussion about making sure I was ready, and then she made me my first big girl doctor appointment, and she paid for my birth control.

So if you're wondering why your daughter got pregnant at 16, it's not because she wore make up, it's not because she went on dates, and it's not because of her clothing. It's because she had unprotected sex, with a boy, who is equally responsible for not preventing the pregnancy, and whose parents are equally responsible for making sure he knows about safe sex. 

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  2. I love everything about this, and I am in total agreement with this. As a teenage, I barely wore make-up, definitely did not dress slutty (always jeans an a t-shirt), and honestly I started having sex at 15. I'm 21 and I'm still not pregnant. Even though my partner of nearly 4 years and I are planning on getting married some day, we STILL have protected, safe sex. We learned the right way of doing things, and that is why we have never gotten pregnant. I just wish more people understood this. I couldn't have said it any better than what you did.

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    1. Yes! And on the flip side, there are plenty of virgins who do wear make up and dress in sexy clothing.

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    2. Obviously, we do not share the same standards. I would not say that the mere fact that you have not become pregnant means that you are a moral person. That is one of the most vital role of parents - to teach children morality and virtue.
      The fact that you have been "responsible" enough to avoid getting pregnant does not mean you have practiced responsibility with your heart, or the hearts of those with whom you have become involved. Sex is about much more than just bearing children...
      As to the author's response about virgins who wear makeup and dress sexy, that could be due to the very reasons I stated above: that they were taught to be responsible with their beauty and their sexuality.

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    3. I know this comment is several years old, but the phrase about being responsible with your beauty and sexuality is one of the grossest things I've ever heard. How about instead, we women be exactly who we are, which is PEOPLE, no matter how we're dressed or what kind of makeup we have on, and people teach their sons to treat us like people and not just walking vaginas? Because really.

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  3. i am going to send everyone who posts this on my facebook to your blog :P

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  4. Love the snark - it was totally deserved!

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    1. Thanks Dionna, sometimes I put my snarky pants on and can't get them off again! ;)

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  5. Yeah, that is the most ridiculous picture ever! I have not seen it on my facebook, but if I do, they are coming here too!!

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    1. Thanks for your comment and support Lauralee! :)

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  6. I thought 20- something men where mostly responsible for teen pregnancy.

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    1. Please note that I did not indicate the age range of the boys, and that I hesitate to refer to anyone having sex with a teenager as a "man". ;)

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  7. I think that you are missing the point. The image, I am guessing, was not meant to give a full account of teen pregnancy. Rather, the image's designer chose to concentrate on the role of girls' parents as that role pertains to sexual activity in their daughters. The image does not say where or not boys or their parents are responsible for teen pregnancy.

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    1. In order to miss the point, there would have to be a valid one in the first place. ;)

      The role of parents of girls, in terms of sexual activity and teen pregnancy, has nothing, whatsoever, to do with makeup or clothing. It has entirely to do with the aspects I brought up here. There are many girls who wear makeup and provocative clothing who do not have sex. There are many girls who do not wear such things who do have sex. Clothing and makeup are not relevant to sex or pregnancy.

      Of course the image doesn't address the role of boys or their parents. Discussions on teen pregnancy rarely do. THAT is the point.

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    2. Fine if it will make you happy I will make one covering teenage boys.

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    3. Which will say, "If you don't talk to your teenage boys about sex and how to prevent it, don't be surprised when they father children." ???

      But, probably not, because where's the "joke" in that reality?

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  8. Especially as someone who WAS pregnant at 16, GREAT POST! Birth control as well as all pregnancy-related responsibility is always placed on the girl... perhaps because she has no choice but to deal with it in one way or another.

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  9. Thank you!!! That image has been driving me crazy, I am so glad to read such a concise and measured response.

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  10. Yes! Thank you for this wonderful post.

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  11. I think the whole point of the meme was the idea of age appropriate behavior for our daughters. Not the make up causes pregnancy or that boys are not equally responsible. We all know that safe sex needs to be taught to our daughters but they also need to learn self respect. Dressing sluty attracts asshats. I can see your point of view but I think you missed the point of the meme.

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    1. "Asshats" are "asshats," period. How a woman dresses has nothing to do with how an "asshat" behaves.

      And putting the responsibility of another person's behavior on the shoulders of a woman is one of the problems. That's essentially saying a woman has to dress /for/ someone else in order to (possibly) prevent someone else from (possibly) behaving inappropriately towards them.

      It's also saying that no matter what happens, the woman provoked it. She didn't consider the "asshat" when she got dressed that morning. She didn't consider the "asshat" when she chose certain words. She didn't consider the "asshat" when she did or didn't put on makeup.

      Hmm, and what happens if there are multiple "asshats" that are attracted by opposite things? One loves make up, one loves no makeup? Geez, should a woman just stay inside so she doesn't "tempt" either one?

      Your point does make glaring the real shudder-worthy message in this meme: it's a girl's fault for unwanted pregnancy. She musta dressed/acted in a certain way, and she got what she deserved.

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    2. But this meme doesn't put the responsibility on the "woman" at all. This meme refers to a CHILD, and the responsibility of her parent.

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    3. If you'll take the time, I highly recommend this piece explaining what slut-shaming is and why it is problematic.

      http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/04/what-is-slut-shaming/

      The point of the meme was to slut-shame. I did not miss that.

      "Asshats" are responsible for themselves and their own behavior. Claiming that they are provoked by certain clothing is a cop out that does a disservice to males and females alike.

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  12. "Dressing sluty attracts asshats"? You make that point directly after saying that our daughters need to learn self respect. One's style of dress to level of respect for one's self is, in fact, not always directly correlated! Furthermore, your comment seems frighteningly close to "dressing slutty attracts/causes........"-----YOU fill in the blanks here, you've probably heard them before.

    If you haven't come up with anything, the word "rape" pops into mind.

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    1. Thank you for your comment. <3 I was beginning to think that "anonymous" was synonymous with "doesn't get it". ;)

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  13. YK what, I keep making points to friends of mine who have sons and daughters, who say they worry far less about their son than their daughter who could become pg. I say no, that is the WRONG way to look at it. Yes she could get pg. She would PROBABLY only do so once unless she is also addicted to drugs and prostituting...and then you have WAY more worries on your hands. So assuming one pgcy and very LIKELY a singleton one...you have one unplanned grandchild.

    Your SON on the other hand, if you don't teach him well (and even if you try to but fail since we all know how much these teens actually listen to us!) could knock up 10...20...+ girls in the time it takes your daughter to get pg...once. And ALL those girls could potentially come after him for child support. And if he is a poor starving student working at a gas station or convenience store, who would end up being on the hook for helping out? Yep. You, as a parent, if possible. For potentially dozens of unplanned grandkids? I mean the chances of it being dozens are probably relatively slim, like the chances of her being knocked up and it being a twin pregnancy. But still, that is only 2 babies if that fluke happens, vs. maybe 7, 12, 18... And yes, we could take it a step further and say her pgcy MIGHT even be a natural quintuplet or sextuplet pgcy. Fine. Lotteries happen. ;-) To the "lucky" rare few. The possibility of him having sex 4x a day if he is a total stud, with 4 different girls, and knocking up well over 100 in just a couple of months is also there, but also quite unlikely. But him knocking up a few in the time she gets pg once is not only entirely possible, but even quite *probable* if he doesn't use protection and is a bit of a cad...so watch your SONS. Yes, teach your daughters about sex ed and how to protect themself against rape, but really REALLY instruct your SONS on how to prevent becoming a dad if they aren't ready.

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    1. Interesting point! I hadn't thought of it that way, but I work as a substance abuse counselor with criminal offenders, and anecdotally, the men have fathered overwhelmingly more unplanned children than the women have mothered.

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  14. Let's be honest, boys have the hormones to make them want to have sex with everything. If the daughters wouldn't publicly display "insert here" all over themselves then maybe some teen sex wouldn't be happening. A boy having unprotected sex is a bad decision, and a girl letting him do it is also a bad decision. Both equal in their own rights. But dressing like you live with a street full of hookers and then opening your legs and getting prego for some dumb teen boy whose just eager to lose his virginity is not equivalent. One is a decision, one is an attitude. The parents should be on all that, its ridiculous to not educate your daughter and then trying to pass the blame on to some young horny boy when your parenting was clearly less than par.

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    1. This line of thinking always takes me aback. First of all, it assumes that girls bear some responsibilities for boys being able to control themselves. They don't. Second, it assumes that boys are somehow incapable of controlling themselves. They aren't. It's simply that society doesn't expect them to.

      I'm not sure if you actually read what you responded to before commenting, but what part of "equal responsibility" makes you think I'm placing all of the blame on "some young horny boy"? And why are the parents of the young horny boy who supposedly has no control over where he inserts his penis absolved of all parenting responsibility?

      Finally, slut-shaming is gross and is not welcome here.

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  15. It's a dumb meme. Of course boys are equally responsible for teen pregnancy. But, at the end of the day - who will be making the though choices? In reality, the responsibility IS bigger for the girl. She is the final say on what happens to her body, and the myriad of choices that follow a positive pregnancy test: abortion or not? adoption? where will I raise the kid? do i stay in school? can I go to college?

    Like it or not, the boy gets a pass on all of the tough questions, so yeah.... it does become a bigger responsibility for the girl. But, no - the makeup has nothing to do with it

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    1. So, as parents, do we just accept that society places the bulk of this responsibility on our girls, or do we work to instill an increased sense of responsibility in our boys? No son of mine will get "a pass" on such questions.

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  16. But does that mean it's a good idea to let girls act like women at a young age? There's a bigger picture here the meme is alluding to, and it's valid, but it has more to do with parenting and fathers/daughters and cultural pressures...

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    1. I would love to hear more about the valid bigger picture you believe this meme alludes to it. All I see it alluding to is that slutty sluts are slutty and deserve what they get, and that is not valid.

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  17. People are expecting a lot out of a one-sentence graphic. The obvious focus of this meme is on parenting, and on said parents allowing their child to be sexualized beyond her age. The only responsibility alluded to in this sentence is that of the girl's parent, not that of the girl, nor that of the boy, nor that of his parent. There are tons of variables intersecting to result in teen pregnancy. We allow our children to consume media that ties a female's worth to her sexual desirability, and that ties a male's worth to his sexual conquest. We teach our daughters to be chaste, sequester them in their rooms, interrogate their dates, but we fail in so many ways to instill the same values in our sons, and to prevent them from engaging in unsafe sex. We could create a hundred of these cards, with a hundred different snarky sayings, without ever leaving the parental responsibility arena.

    Male responsibility, sex education, and birth control are all valid points, all things that need to be addressed...and all completely outside the scope of this one little 25-word meme.

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    1. In terms of parenting, as it relates to sex and pregnancy, clothing and makeup are not relevant.

      Those things are not just out of the scope of this 25-word meme, they are conspicuously largely out of the scope of the entire discussion on teen pregnancy.

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  18. I heartily agree wtih Anonymous and want to tack this on to my previous post: I didn't interpret it as cause and effect, but as a slippery slope. Either way, it is still a generalization but I see truth in it (in fact, I lived it with friends), though it's rooted in the bigger issues I mentioned earlier. Growing up too fast is a symptom of deeper problems as well as permissive parenting.

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    1. I agree that slut-shaming is a slippery slope (to victim-blaming, particularly), but I have a feeling that isn't what you meant.

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  19. What is wrong with u people?...... Instead of putting the blame on the boys or on the girls....... It's the parents fault for not teaching them that premarital sex is wrong and unexceptable! If they saved themselfs for the right person there wouldn't be any of this crap going on! children shouldn't be put on birth control and told its okay to have sex! That is just sick! Parent up!

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    1. It is not a fact that premarital sex is wrong and unacceptable. It is an opinion, and not one that a great many teenagers share.

      I'm not sure how saying "Don't have sex, it is wrong!" and leaving it at that is "parenting up". But then, I'm scratching my head at what "parent up" might mean anyway.

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  20. If it was really about parenting, it would say, "Don't alienate your daughter, fail to teach her about sex and her own body, and avoid setting boundaries (and cultivating the respect that gets those boundaries honored), and then act surprised when she gets pregnant as a teenager." But I can see how that lacks a humorous tinge.

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  21. Joella, you already know I love this.

    Abstinence only education doesn't work. If you want to make me do the legwork to find the teen pregnancy rates by state as they compare to types of sex ed I'll do it, but it's fully googleable and recently reported-on. It is just not realistic to expect that teenagers won't have sex and to assume you can convince them all to "save themselves for marriage" is heteronormative, naive and Christian in the exclusive, blinders-on way that gives modern Christianity a bad name. In any case, boys are FULLY responsible for where their penis goes and to state or imply otherwise contributes to rape culture, demeans women AND boys who should be empowered to be the upstanding citizens they are capable of being.

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  22. I don't go along with that. I see what is being said, but I also see society trying to sexualize my daughters to fast that I have to watch out for the clothes and toys my 4 year old gets/wears. It's hard for me to buy that the societal trend of teaching younger and younger girls that they need to cover up their face and flaunt their body doesn't have any effect on the decisions they make about sex just a short time after childhood.

    I think the suggestion from the image is that a parent who doesn't manage the things on the list responsibly probably isn't going to be having the kind of discussions with the kid that will be needed to make sure responsible decisions are made, and that if that is the case, they have no right to complain to anyone but themselves.

    So yeah - letting a 14 year old wear makeup and revealing clothes doesn't get her pregnant, but neither does it provide her with the healthy self esteem, body image, and maturity necessary to make the very real adult decisions that will be coming her way shortly.

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  23. I think that to prevent pregnancy, there needs to be a balance of all things. I come from a large family and I was the only girl not allowed to wear makeup, date at all throughout high school, and I was not allowed to dress provocatively. I also had a great sex education at school and my mother often talked to me about it. I had sex for the first time at age 20 and I can honestly say I have no regrets. I have many nieces and nephews ranging from 9 months-19 years and I have three brothers. I decided to have a child at 27 and now at 28 I have one daughter who is 18 months old. All I can say is that yes, pregnancy takes two and is not caused by makeup, clothes, or dating early on. However, if you teach your daughter to respect herself, to not skip her childhood, and to behave a certain way, it will help her to make wiser decisions. At 16 my nephews girlfriend wore heavy makeup, was allowed to go anywhere with her boyfriend and her mother was open about sex. She had the same sex ed. I had and when her mother found out she was having sex, she took her to the doctor where together they talked about the dangers of unprotected sex. She was prescribed birth control but ended up pregnant soon after her 17th birthday. I am witnessing similar behaviors with my 12 and 14 year old niece. In my experience boys have one thing in mind as teens and they tend to go after girls with a slutty image. I have a daughter and no sons that is why my focus is with my daughter and what I can do to help her make better decisions. I can see with my nephews and brothers that they will turn their heads to the girls with provocative clothing and wearing makeup. I can also see that the boys are not being taught to respect women and treat them like objects so there is big fault with boys. Society has a huge influence on behavior but it is our job as parents to teach our kids so that they have good judgement and can even ignore the horrible things about our society. I will not let my daughter wear makeup at 10, date at 12, or wear provocative clothes at 14!

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  24. Great article! There's just one little inaccuracy or missing detail: NO FORM OF CONTRACEPTION WORKS PERFECTLY. Even a couple who uses their chosen contraceptive method exactly correctly every single time has some chance of pregnancy. It is not *always* true that a pregnant teenager ever had *unprotected* sex with a boy. Therefore, it is crucial that we teach both boys and girls that, in addition to resisting too-early sexual activity and deciding which method of contraception they will use when they are ready, they need to think seriously about what they would do if pregnancy happened anyway.

    I had comprehensive sex education and was very careful as a result. I didn't get pregnant until I was ready. But I have several friends who conceived while using contraception, some as teens and some as adults. It does happen, and kids need to be aware of that well before they consider having sex so that it figures into their decision-making.
    ---'Becca

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  25. My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine,

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  27. This great man called Priest Babaka of babaka.wolf@gmail.com helped me with a pregnancy spell. i have been married for the past 9year without a child i and my husband has went for many check up but the Doctors always bring positive result that we are okay, we have been hoping that we will get bless one day but every day just look the same i always touch my stomach but nothing happens. But with the great help of Priest Babaka i have have my first baby this year April 22 2013 i am really thankful for the great help he render to me in case you need his help just email him on : babaka.wolf@gmail.com for help.

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  28. My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine,

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  29. i think am the happiest man on this earth,i want to share the reason why am so happy five years back i have been going from one hospital to another because of my issue of not been able to make my wife pregnant and i gave up because the doc.said thati will nt b able to do that i shld jst adopt a child,then when i opened up to my wife she told me about one spell cast man called DR OKON and i reluctantly agreed with her and after i communicated with he told me with assurance that i can make my wife if only i can trust and believe in him and obey everything he is going to tell me and do as he will and i did everything he requested,a month later my wife took in and my doctor was surprise,today am a father and am the happiest man on earth with the help of this man called DR OKON THE SPELL CASTER.what ever you are passing through just contact him bece he is capable and good and he can solve your problem no matter hard you think it is, contact him via email (okonspelltemple@hotmail.com) or phone+2347059498969

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  30. ATTN!!!
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    My NAME is Katty White from the UK.
    I was Married for about 18 years and was unable to conceive. i have done series of Test and the Result was that i wont be able to bear any CHILD because i was BARREN.
    I cried and cried because my Husband threatened to get married to someone else. I shared my marriage story with my parent in France and they told me about a spell caster that help auntie MISSIE cast a pregnancy spell when she needed a male child. i contacted the spell caster and told him about my BARRENNESS.
    Just within 2 days, He prepared a Cleansing spell rival and sent it to me which i applied and felt a big changes in my body.
    2 months later, i was pregnant and i gave birth just 1 week ago. am not yet strong but i wish to inform you all about him. if you need his help you can email him on dr.oranitutu@gmail.com or dr.oranitutu@yahoo.com
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  31. Hello everyone,My name is Tina Grand.i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. I have been married to my husband for 3 years without no child. We have been to the doctor and it was confirmed that the both of us are in good condition. I had problems with my in-laws because of the child issue. I was introduced to MAMA DADA HERBAL HOME by a friend who lives here in America. I contacted her and explained my problems to her.MAMA DADA HERBAL HOME told me all that is required and i did it accordingly. I was very surprise to test positive after 2 weeks of contacting her. I gave birth to my baby boy four weeks ago and i am a very happy woman and a living testimony of this good work. Anyone who needs her help should contact her through Email.(mamadadaherbalhome@yahoo.com) and you will also testify to her good work.

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  32. Husband left me and my kids , i was passing though pains, sorrow, heartbroken, i was going crazy but this is how i restored happiness back in my life by getting my husband back. I’m Tiffany Wilson from UK. I want to share my testimony with every-one.. I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband with two kids. A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce. he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Templeofloveandprosperity@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past 7 months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of Dr Frank Ojo a spell caster. So, If you have any problem contact him, I give you 100% guarantee that he will help you, Thanks to Dr Frank Ojo for bringing back my husband ,and brought great joy to my family once again, so here his email address { Templeofloveandprosperity@gmail.com } Website address: http://lovespell2.yolasite.com, His Mobile number: +234)80- 7237-0762, Dr Frank Ojo is the best spell caster online contact him if you have any problem.

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  33. Wow so excited for what this great man did for me in helping me to get conceive a baby of my own after been married for the past years of no child but since i met this man online my problem is now solve and am now pregnant with 4 months pregnant and am so excited to be in this mood which i have been looking for in a long time now and i thank God i met this great man on time who solve my problem contact him on priestonomeherbaltemple@outlook.com for your solution too.

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  34. I am Mrs. VANISSA DANIEL from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband, and i love him so much we have been married for 4 years now with three kids. when he went for a vacation to RUSSIAN he meant a lady called SANDRA, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend miss JULIAN and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr. Ogwua who cast a spell for her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. Miss JULIAN ask me to contact Dr. Ogwua. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr. Ogwua on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his EMAIL contact: Ogwuaspiritualspellhome@hotmail.com He is the best spell caster. call him on +2348156759423233.

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  37. It just occur to me that i have not done the right thing since when my husband came back to me, I am Mayer from United Kingdom, I am on this blog to give thanks to whom it deserve. Some couples of weeks ago my life was in a terrible shape because my husband left me and i never believe that i was going to get him back. But through the help of this powerful spell caster called Dr.Ogudugu my life is now in a joyful mood, I must recommend the services of Dr.Ogudugu to any one out there that they should contact Dr.Ogudugu through his email: GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM because through Dr.Ogudugu assistance, my marriage was restored.

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  38. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you contacts him with his via number +2348107155060

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  39. AN Amazing Testimony On A Spell Caster Who help me to get pregnant, So me and my partner have been trying for a baby for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck. I don't have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when I'm ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a baby have conceived within 2-3months of trying and it is really getting to me. my partner had a fertility test about a year ago and his sperm were fine. I'm thinking it could be a problem with me but I've never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional Priest ink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional Priest ink. i know i'm slightly overweight but that shouldn't affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunty, then i contact the man on this email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com , after three months the doctor confirm that i am pregnant thank you Priest Babaka for helping me get a baby, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine.

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  40. It is been said that one good turn deserved another that is the reasoning why i am using this medium to thank Dr.Ogudugu for his assistance during my time of hardship in my relationship. But looking at it from this angle that Dr.Ogudugu has saved my relationship by casting a spell for me which brought my lover within period of 48 hours, What really shocked me emotional was that my lover has been more romantic since the help of Dr.Ogudugu. In order to do a lot of people huge favor i will write down the details of Dr.Ogudugu via email greatogudugu@gmail.com

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  41. I can't say Doctor Osemu Okpamen is the almighty GOD but he's a GOD on earth. Why i said that is because he helped me to get back my husband that divorced me 3 years back living me hopeless with nothing. I searched for local helps around but nothing good showed up. So, i decided to go into the internet in search of help and i discovered that Doctor Osemu Okpamen was been praised globally for his good works. I decided to get in touch with him for assistance and he prepared a spell for me and assured me that my husband will come back to me within 12 to 16 hours i was skeptical about it but i had no choice than to believe in his words. To my greatest surprise, my husband called me and started pleading that he was coming back home and today, we are living as one big happy family again. Am Tracie Aldana from Kentucky USA and here is my cell number +1270-946-9415. Get in touch with him now if you need any help like getting your love ones back, spell to get pregnant, spell to stop divorce, spell to cure any kind of diseases like Aids, HIV, Anemia, Cancer, E.T.C. Email him now on; Doctorokpamenspelltemple@hotmail.com OR Website: http://doctorokpamenpowerfulspelltemple.webs.com OR what'sapp on +2348135254384 or call on +2349032265990

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  43. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you can call him or whats app his number +2348107155060

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  44. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

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  45. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
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    I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or view through his website and Contact him there: http://supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

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  46. I am MOORE JULIET from Australia, I have been trying for 5years to get pregnant and needed help! i have Been going to the doctors but still nothing. The doctor said that me and my husband are fine and I don't know where else to turn, until one day my friend introduce me to this great spell caster who helped her to get back her lost husband back with love spell and also made her pregnant, So I decided to contact this spell caster Dr.Sam on his email after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i should have sex with the my husband or any man I love in this world, And i did so, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant of two babies. I am so happy!! if you also need help to get pregnant or need your ex back please contact him for help via email: miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam You can also contact him through his mobile: +2348110496031. YOU CAN ALSO READ MY TESTIMONY ON MY BLOGGER LINK: http://moorejuliet.blogspot.com He is a good spell caster

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  47. I am MOORE JULIET from Australia, I have been trying for 5years to get pregnant and needed help! i have Been going to the doctors but still nothing. The doctor said that me and my husband are fine and I don't know where else to turn, until one day my friend introduce me to this great spell caster who helped her to get back her lost husband back with love spell and also made her pregnant, So I decided to contact this spell caster Dr.Sam on his email after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i should have sex with the my husband or any man I love in this world, And i did so, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant of two babies. I am so happy!! if you also need help to get pregnant or need your ex back please contact him for help via email: miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam You can also contact him through his mobile: +2348110496031. YOU CAN ALSO READ MY TESTIMONY ON MY BLOGGER LINK: http://moorejuliet.blogspot.com He is a good spell caster




    I am MOORE JULIET from Australia, I have been trying for 5years to get pregnant and needed help! i have Been going to the doctors but still nothing. The doctor said that me and my husband are fine and I don't know where else to turn, until one day my friend introduce me to this great spell caster who helped her to get back her lost husband back with love spell and also made her pregnant, So I decided to contact this spell caster Dr.Sam on his email after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i should have sex with the my husband or any man I love in this world, And i did so, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant of two babies. I am so happy!! if you also need help to get pregnant or need your ex back please contact him for help via email: miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam You can also contact him through his mobile: +2348110496031. YOU CAN ALSO READ MY TESTIMONY ON MY BLOGGER LINK: http://moorejuliet.blogspot.com He is a good spell caster

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